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Versatile Blogger Award

I’ve been a very lucky guy in regards to blogging.  When I started seriously blogging on the now closed MyOpera platform, I quickly ran into some great blogging friends which encouraged my continued output.  versatile-blogger-award-3 After a year or two, my output became less prolific due to a few personal issues.  During this near hiatus MyOpera closed and a number of us ported our blogs to WordPress.  For nearly two years, my posts here were sporadic but during the latter half of 2015 I gave WordPress some effort and have been rewarded with a new collection of great friends again.

That’s my blog history pretty much summed up.  2016 has started with two awards from my fellow bloggers here at WordPress.  Earlier this month, I was nominated for the You Are My Sunshine Award.  And now, I have been nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award by the wonderful Chanel Bailey at The Real Life/ Real Talk.  Do check out her blog, it is a great read.

Okay, I had better get to the rules:

  1. Thank the person that nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  2. Nominate at least 15 bloggers of your choice. When considering a fellow blogger for the Versatile Blogger Award, keep in mind the quality of their writing, the uniqueness of their subject matter and the level of love displayed on the virtual page.
  3. Link your nominees and let them know about their nomination.
  4. Share seven facts about yourself.

I’m a bit of a maverick at times (joking) so I won’t list 15+ bloggers in this post.  I would like to nominate all of the blogs in my list to the right of the screen, so please all do take this as a nomination from me.  Also, please do visit all of the blogs that I follow.

Anyway, seven facts about me:

  1. My online names ‘Harry…the man’ and ‘ChartonJeremiah’ are references to two of my favourite bands The Cure and Talking Heads.  ‘Harry…the man’ is a reference to a song by The Cure ‘Happy the man’ and Charlton and Jeremiah are the real first names of Talking Heads members Chris Frantz and Jerry Harrison.
    EDIT My name actually is Harry which is why some friends originally sang Harry the man whenever Happy The Man was played
  2. Infamously, I ate tinned cat food at a party after drinking too much.  That weekend, my Mum served me up a can of cat food after hearing the story from the sisters hosting the party as they were good friends with my parents.
  3. I worked at a school for a couple of years.  Two of the then school children who I saw pretty much every day were Juno Temple and Cara Delevingne.  I didn’t speak much to Cara Delevingne but I can confirm that Juno Temple was, and I imagine still is, a wonderful girl (whenever I was about she was, anyway).
  4. At Junior School, I played hockey as a team captain in a county meeting.  I coincidentally wore the exact same shirt my brother – nine years my senior – wore when he represented the school playing soccer.
  5. With Yasmin finally calling me Dad, that is one of my two long held parenting goals achieved.  The other is to have a daughter who is legally my own child.  This will most likely be by adoption if at all.
  6. I have a few digestion issues aka lactose intolerance and IBS.  Both of these are pretty much under control nowadays, but I was tested for bowel cancer a few years back.  I was suffering badly mainly from not then knowing how to control the symptoms by taking care of what I ate.  For example, this means that I cannot eat brussels sprouts or apples without suffering later on but the juice from either has no effect on me.
  7. I have a dragonfly wing shaped scar on the inside of my right elbow joint from an accident with an iron when I was a toddler.  I was too scared to cry from the pain as I thought my Mum would be angry; and so my Mum didn’t realise about the accident until she went to bath me an hour or so later.  Needless to say, she took me straight to the hospital!

 

They never really grow up

I’m only going to throw up onto this WordPress site a short blog post today.  Why so brief?  Well…I’ve been feeling rough all day and today was particularly hard at work.  It’s not always the easiest thing to do to reinstall bespoke software and databases on new servers after you wake up with a banging migraine.

No more moaning from me about my ailments.  I have things to be thankful for this week.

After sixteen years of marriage to her mother, Yasmin announced on Christmas Day to Gloria and I that she would no longer be calling me Harry.  Instead she will call me Dad.

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Yasmin and I – you might want to open this photo in another browser window on a smartphone if this falls off the side of the page!

Yesterday, she met me at work as she wanted me to help her renew her car insurance.  I was introducing Yasmin to the Technical Director as Gloria’s daughter – he got on with Gloria well when she was also working at the same place as me – and I realised that I wasn’t sure how to introduce her from now on.

After she left for her flat I exchanged a WhatsApp message with Yasmin (I wish she’d use Telegram) and checked with her how she wants me to refer to her in the future.  She wants me to introduce her as my daughter.

So there you have it.  Yasmin is my little one.  Yes, she’s less than a month from her 24th birthday, but she is my little one.

I would love to have a second little one, but that’s another story.

 

My Mum’s milestone birthday

There are a few phrases which I hear again and again that both make me groan with annoyance as well as smile to myself.

One such phrase was this one that I heard several times in December, “Where has the time gone.  It’s not that long ago since the start of the year.”

I would groan inwardly to myself when I heard this.  I reasoned that the person I was speaking to had let the precious hours within their year slip past them.  They were wasting their life.  If they had filled their time with non-repetitive and worthwhile actions other than sitting watching television or some other time wasting activity, the year would have felt like a year to them rather than a few days that had somehow flowed uninterrupted into each other.  I would also smile to myself that I had had the foresight to not let all of my time escape me without being used – I wasted some minutes but not all.

And so, I always answered in the same way, “Yes, the start of the year seems like only eleven months ago.”

Already, so much seems to have happened to me in 2016 and we have not yet finished the second week of this leap year.  It is true that I have had some help in filling my time.  There was the office Christmas party last Friday (in January…I know!) and my mother’s 80th birthday last Sunday.

Ah, yes, my Mum had a great extended birthday weekend.

On Saturday, she invited Gloria and me to her bungalow for a small afternoon meal.

Sunday, Mum’s birthday, consisted of a trip to Church in the morning, lunch at my sisters’ house with a guest appearance by my other sister from North Lincolnshire (I was not at this meal); and then an evening service at a different Church with me.  This service was conducted by an old family friend, a Reverend like my late father, who led the congregation in singing ‘Happy Birthday to You’.

Finally, on Monday Mum had her 80th birthday hog roast at yet another Church.  Gloria (and I) baked the cake and my sister’s bloke and his brother provided the hog roast.  Gloria would have been at work but, to my Mum’s delight, she was able to come.

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Mum and Gloria

The reason why Gloria did not go to work was that she was given some emergency time off.  Unfortunately, Yasmin was very unwell on Sunday and after the hog roast Gloria and I collected Yasmin’s prescription and drove up to give it to her.  Anyway, that’s another story.

It was a wonderful afternoon.  Oh, my apologies if you are reading this on a smartphone as you may not see the whole of the photograph without opening it in a separate browser window.

I made one observation.  At the end of the engagement, I was washing up all of the plates, mugs, glasses and cutlery and looked around the kitchen.  Also helping in the kitchen were my sister’s partner, his mother and also my sister’s eldest son who is one of two children from her first marriage.  In other words, we were demonstrating how it’s nonsense that kitchen chores are all women’s work!

I hope that I enjoy myself just as much on my 80th birthday as my mother did.

You Are My Sunshine Award…and other stories

Hmm…the first Thursday of 2016 and seven days into the year.  Time for a blog, I have been thinking.

I’ve been thinking the last few days about what my first blog post for 2016 should be.  I was a little tempted to write something about Epiphany, what with yesterday being ‘Epiphany’, ‘Three Kings Day’ or ‘Día de Los Tres Reyes Magos’ depending on your tradition (or first spoken language).  That post might have to wait for next year.

I’m going to put that post on hold because one of my blogging friends here on WordPress has nominated me for the ‘You Are My Sunshine’ Award.  I’m quite touched, to be honest.  I never thought anyone would appreciate my presence that much.

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You Are My Sunshine Award

So, the rules of this are (I understand that taking part is voluntary) –

  • Thank the person/people who nominated you.
  • Answer the questions from your nominators.
  • Nominate eleven other bloggers
  • Give them eleven questions.
  • You could check out the blogs I nominated and follow them if you like.

So, a big heartfelt thank you to Emz who can be found at Side By Side.  She already has my recommendation as I can be picky about which blogs I read.  Please do look at her blog and also the blogs that I nominate.

First off, I’ll answer the eleven questions posed by Emz and then I’ll list my eleven nominated blogs. If I have nominated your blog but don’t feel like doing this, don’t worry as it’s intended to be a fun thing and no-one will take offence if you’d rather sit this one out.

Anyway, my interview (so to speak) by Emz –

Describe yourself in three words.
Loyal, paternal, easy

What do you blog about?
Things that have been on my mind during the previous week. I can be serious about those things close to my heart but I usually try not to be.

Coffee or tea?
I have to smile now as this is the question that I always ask a stranger. I actually drink both – usually, coffee in the morning and tea in the afternoon. ‘How British’ – I know!

Lights on or lights off?
It depends. I prefer lights off and the curtains/blinds drawn back if there’s sunlight to illuminate the room. Sorry, a little gripe at my work colleagues there.

Morning or evening?
I tend to be happier in the morning but I don’t have a preference.

What can you not live without?
My wife and young female relations ie my stepdaughter Yasmin and neices – a daughter would be wonderful, too!

What is your favourite post on your blog? Link it.
This is a difficult one. I’m pleased with every post that I make before I post it and this pleasure never wanes for any of my posts. But my favourite post would definitely be I Stayed Home and Done Something. This post is about something that I was both emotionally linked to and proud about completing.

What is your biggest pet peeve?
People who don’t appreciate their daughters like they should do.

Aside from blogging, what do you do on your free time?
I don’t go out much or play on video games. I base my life around my family, Godmother and close friends. Gloria (my wife) and I also have some meals out with the Reverend from our Church, who is an old friend of my late father…who was also a Reverend.

What is your favourite day of the week?
Maybe, Tuesday. There are less people out in the evening and if you need to go shopping or drop into the pub for a quiet drink it’s a good day to go because of that.

Who/What inspires you?
Malala Yousefzai’s father Ziauddin Yousefzai, and anyone else who encourages their daughter with the same pride as they would do a son.

And now, my eleven nominated blogs and their eleven questions.  I should add that there is no particular reason for the order of my list –

The story of my dreams coming true
A Sneak Peak On The Things I Like
Alluring n Young
Mostly Photos, With An Occasional Garrolous Ramble
The Fish Tank
Beauty Beyond Bones
Goan Imports
Tales Of Chinese Cooking
Coisart’s Canvas
Subacati
The Sprite’s Blog

And now, some questions –
What is the greatest thing about the internet?
Who is your favourite person from history and why?
If you won a million pounds, how would you live the rest of your life?
What is your most embarrassing moment?
If you could choose a particular period of history to be born in when would it be and why?
If God granted you the wish to change one event from history, what event would you change and why?
What is your secret weakness? (I won’t tell anyone, honest!)
Who is the World’s worst millionaire?
What is the greatest household gadget ever invented?
How do you relax?
Which biscuit would you describe as the very best?

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